A special Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to my fellow heathens
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! It's that special time of year when many of us will find peace and renewal with family and friends. For many others, it has the potential to be a divisive time of stress and confrontation. I wish I would whip some guru-esque wisdom on you - a Vulcan Mind Meld perhaps - that could convince you that it's all within your control and that it is all going to be OK. But I can't, because that's bullshit. Every relationship has multiple parties and responsibilities lie on both parties for the relationship to be a success. We can only control our piece. But we can control our reaction to the behavior of others. We have a choice. We can actively decide if we're going to buy-in to their drama and participate in it. I know some who know exactly what they're heading for - whether it's a passive-aggressive family member or a drunken hot-head - and they see it as a game. They're confident enough in who they are and know not t